Even without a detailed statistical survey I think that I may state that most peoples’ relstionship to Christmas is coined by childhood and family. Remembrances of course are manifold, quite a few miss the security of their family, others like me remember the stress connected with the occasion, meals that had to be even if you hated them as a child (in my case it was the inevitable boiled carp my grandparents insisted upon). But, even that I dare to state, the base feeling towards Christmas is quite positive, at least everybody regards this celebration of winter solistice as something very special.
Many people try to preserve this childhood experience as long as they can. When I look around here in our young quarter, Freidrichshain, then I can see that most flats are dark on Christmas Eve and all those young people have returned home to their childhood memories, into the family, also back into all they were quite happy to have got away from. At Christmas they want to be back, in their positive and negative remembrances.
But then one day this world is gone. Parents die, young people build their own families and suddenly develop different priorities. But not everybody has own children which may be taught negative or positive feelings for Christmas. So, what to do when the “old Christmas” suddenly is gone? When parents are not there any longer or, as it is usual today, the old Christmas family has dissolved by divorce, estrangement or death, or if it has broken into a patchwork family? In a German blog I read something these days, which has hit a note: One should develop own rituals. And we are on our way to do this.

Just as last year we had an “Open House” on Christmas Eve. Whoever of our friends wants to come, is invited, we had a fondue (certainly not written in cast iron to have one each year for the future. People from 20 to more than 60 years met, and everybody had fun or they would not have stayed long past 2 a.m.

Everybody helped themselves to dinner, we sang to the guitar (no, no Christmas carols) and we played games, old-fashioned Charades.
And we have the first declarations to come next year as well.